As I write this post I realize how ironic its title is. This is a subject that has been plaguing my energy for the past few weeks so I thought it was worth sharing with you all.
In the era of sipping tea/spilling tea, or however you phrase it, gossip is not only common, but a fad. People literally don't know how to mind their own business. We fetishize digging for information about someone's personal life, and sharing it with other people. We think we're revealing more about the person, or subject at hand; when in reality it's more telling of ourselves.
I'm bringing this subject up because I've realized that not only have I been the subject of gossip, but also a perpetrator recently. And it could be the journalist in me, but when I find out a juicy story, I impulsively tell it. I haven't always been this way, especially not in my professional life. I used to overhear information, or be a confidant of gossip and I would keep it to myself as an extra tool to observe others from afar, but I had never felt so compelled to tell it. So what's changed?
We think we'e revealing more about the person, or subject at hand; when in reality it's more telling of ourselves.
Honestly, I can't pinpoint exactly what triggered my lips to start gossiping more frequently, but I do know that being the subject of gossip definitely played a part. My reputation means a lot to me. I never try to present myself publicly in a negative way, so naturally I'm bothered when someone tries to speak on me in that way. Once this happens I try to keep tabs on people, see what I can find out about them to keep my guard up; a defense mechanism. But no matter what I say about someone outside of their presence, I always make sure it's something I would be bold enough to say in front of their face. Seems like a logical method, but it's pretty problematic; this theory has taught me to justify gossiping in the first place.
So how do you exit the treacherous path of gossip? By minding your business and eating your food. That's literally what it has to be. Participating in gossip isn't just limited to speaking about someone when they're not there, but also includes listening to it.
Starting today my mantra is: it's none of my business.
How do you combat gossip? Comment below!