Hello all! My name is Breora Page. I’m originally from Denver, CO. but I currently live in Kansas City, MO. I am a Graduate Assistant and I am currently pursuing my Masters of Science of Counseling Psychology degree.
What is your definition of self-love?
For starters, I would say that self-love is taking the time to find yourself and constantly learning exactly who you are, and embracing all of it. I would also say that self-love is taking care of yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically, making sure that you are whole and grounded. Lastly, self-love is refusing to let anyone (including yourself) tear you down.
What are some factors, in your opinion, that can deter someone from loving themselves? What were some factors that deterred you?
One thing that may deter someone from loving themselves is society! For example, I have been told so many times that I am unattractive because I am darker skinned. Or that I’m pretty for a “dark girl”. Microaggressions such as those can really harm a person.
Self-love is refusing to let anyone- including yourself- tear you down.
When did you realize that you needed to start loving on yourself more?
I realized that I needed to start loving on myself when I noticed that I was never satisfied with myself. I was way too fixated on other people’s opinions of me. I was way too worried about if others thought I was pretty, fit, smart, or loveable. I now realize that not everyone will love me, or even like me! But that’s okay and it’s nothing to stress over. I love me. Christ loves me. He loves me so much that he died for me. That type of sacrifice really helped me understand my worth. I am enough, just as I am.
Do you have a self-care tradition?
I wouldn’t call it a tradition, but I like to randomly look in the mirror and remind myself that I am beautiful and worthy of love. I also take time to grow and sharpen all the aspects of me (emotionally, spiritually and physically).
What is your advice for someone who is having trouble with their self-esteem?
I would tell that person that no matter what anyone should say about you, know that you are worth loving. Christ came to Earth to die and save YOUR life. Why? Because He LOVES you. He didn’t die for a nobody, He died for someone significant. Furthermore, I would like to add that you were specially made and crafted by the hand of God Himself. He made you to be exactly who you are.
Also, society can tell you a lot of things, but know that beauty is subjective. For instance, two people could all go to an art museum and look at the same exact picture, but see two totally different things. One may love the picture and be completely moved by it, while the other one is not impressed. It is the same thing with people, some may look at your inner and outer being, and love everything about you, while others may have a different preference. Not everyone will like you and that’s okay. What’s important is that you get to know yourself and love who you are. Learn your inner beauty; your values, morals, strengths, limitations, intelligence….and love it. Learn your outer beauty; your features, body type, hair, skin color, voice….and love it. God didn’t create you to be someone else. Be original. Be you.