My name is Shakera Scott and I am from Kansas City, Mo. I work for Mazuma Credit Union as a Universal Agent (Personal Banker & Teller).
What is your definition of self-love?
Self-love is knowing how to encourage yourself during tough times, and also during times of sunshine. It's believing in yourself even when no one else does. It's also keeping it real with yourself and allowing for yourself to not stand in your own way of growth. It's believing that you are beautiful inside and out without being cocky. It's being confident in who you are and always wanting the best for yourself.
Why is self-love so important?
Self love is important because without it you have people who self destruct. You have people who become insecure and don't have the proper tools to process things in a healthy way. With having self love first you then know how to love other people. Without self love you're then seeking love from everyone else but not in a healthy manner. Self love can be your number one motivation to PUSH yourself to accomplish your wildest dreams.
What are were some factors in your opinion that deterred you from loving yourself?
Not having love from family, being abused, seeing abuse in all forms, tragedy, and drugs/alcohol.
I've always been someone with stability in my self-esteem. But I would say things that have deterred me are being in a toxic environment. Also, having a damaged relationship with certain family members, and always being a bubbly loving person but not having that reflect in my friendships.
What's in your heart is what you put out into the world.
When did you realize that you needed to start loving on yourself more?
My whole life. I think when I was a child I learned very early to always say positive things to myself. In instances where I was sad or discouraged it always made me feel better.
What is your advice for someone who is having trouble with their self-esteem?
To first dig deep!! Find things that they like about themselves and dwell on that. I would tell them that no one's going to love them like they love them! What's in your heart is what you put out into the world. So if there's no self love in your heart you won't be putting that into the atmosphere. Realize that you are beautiful no matter what anyone has ever told you or what you believe and to always remember that self-love is SO REWARDING!