does my hair match my outfit?
Hair and fashion go together like dry skin and shea butter. The perfect hairstyle is the best accessory and can really tie your look together. Although you can't change the way your hair grows out of your scalp, what you choose to do with it reveals a lot about your personal style. Hence, the stressful task of trying to find a hairstyle that completes and complements your look- especially during the holiday party season.
This style struggle used to be a weekly thing for me. Whether it’s an interview, dance class or a party, I'm always left standing in front of the mirror trying to brainstorm something that works best for the occasion. If I'm lucky enough to come up with something, the next challenge is successfully translating the vision to reality. The outcome is always a toss up. At times the results are disastrous, other times my hair looks even better than I could’ve imagined. In addition to these frustrations, the biggest struggle of all can be deciding which style goes best with your outfit.
Does this headband make me look more “Valley Girl” preppy or vintage pin-up? Is this updo giving me more classic or casual vibes? Should I just chop all of my hair off altogether? At this point in my train of thought, I’m usually at my wits end, throwing my hands up in defeat and styling my hair into a puff. Though the puff is my most reliable hairstyle, sometimes I want to look extra special and it just won't suffice for the look I’m going for.
There are countless hairstyles for natural hair. The beauty of natural hair is its versatility and ability to be manipulated to achieve a specific look. I used to think that if I were more skilled with my hair, my hairstyles and outfits would always pair perfectly. And though I believe this to be true, it took a while for me to realize that my hair and my outfits don't necessarily need to “match,” per se. Though different occasions call for different looks, I've learned not to cause myself unnecessary stress by getting caught up in trying to perfectly match the two. Life is so much more carefree without trying to constantly coordinate between my hairstyle and my clothes.
Despite the large role hair plays, my personal style doesn't completely hinge upon the hairstyle I chose for that day’s outfit. Hair and fashion are not mutually exclusive, but as long as I think that both my hair and my outfit are on point, the overall look usually ends up being a success. Confidently letting go of those insecurities and boldly rocking whatever look you choose can be daunting, but it’s so freeing! Reminding myself of this has lowered my hair stress levels by a million. All that time wasted on stressing could be time well spent on holiday shopping anyway…